It’s simple common courtesy to respond to someone who directly inquires about your well being… Right? Well, why would you knowingly ignore someone’s greetings and salutations and not respond to them with a simple, “Hello, how are you” even if you don’t mean it? These and many other Facebook questions are rambling through my head as I try to rationalize why someone wouldn’t respond to a simple, “It’s great to see you on Facebook! How are you and your family?”
Was my question so personal or left to center that I couldn’t get a simple response? Even if you didn’t want to respond publicly by writing on my “Wall”; then a simple 3 to 5 word response to my Facebook Inbox would have sufficed! I mean… Why would you accept my “Friend” request if you had no intentions of communicating with me on Facebook? Are you just trying to rack up friends, so that you look popular? Do you need validation from your Facebook network that you are [somewhat] interesting enough to befriend?
This really perplexis me and [kind of] crushes my ego! If this wasn’t someone who I’d never had personal conversations with; only an occasional “Hi… How are you?”; then that’s to be expected. However, this individual I’ve known for 10 years and we have shared a good bit of information with each other about home and work. So why the cold shoulder all of a sudden?
I will be honest… I didn’t consider this person a “friend”, because I don’t use that word lightly. I consider it an honor for someone to classify me as a friend. I hold that title with high regard and don’t categorize people unless there’s a TRUE since of friendship. I’ll refer to you as an acquaintance or from the place/environment from which I know you before I refer to you as a “friend”. It’s not a title I take or distribute lightly… So, no this individual was not classified as a friend. Nonetheless, I did respect them as a person and empathized with them on many occasions. Therefore, I was expecting at least a, “Hello” or “I’m well and so is the family” response.
Anyhoo, I’ve since blocked my profile from this person. I feel that if you can’t at least extend the same common [online] courtesy by replying to my “greeting” (more than one mind you); then you’re not worthy of being my Facebook Friend!
Right or wrong… What are your thoughts?
XOXO
True..you can leave a 1 liner. You don’t have to type an essay, but just common courtesy respond back with something!!
I cracked up when you said “This really perplexis me and [kind of] crushes my ego!” Is it okay that I laugh? I totally get the crushed ego thing. It was soo honest.
Ok, round to the question…its rude..it doesnt kill to reply. I’m not sure if you can tell if someone has been on to check their messages tho…have you factored that in?
I’m totally fine with you laughing at me! I actually contemplated not being “too” honest, but why maintain a blog if I’m not going to be forthcoming?
Now to answer your question; yes they check their page on a regular basis. I know this because they’ve responded to other individuals after both instances where I left them a message. So it’s not that they don’t login; it’s just that they’re not responding to MY messages to them.
I also thought about how petty it was for me to remove them as a friend, but I honestly feel that if they want to continue to ignore my greetings and salutations, then I don’t need them in my virtual world!
It ain’t me is it? LOL….Keela, you are a great writer!!! All these years and I never knew.
Whose rude a** did that sis?